I will write more about this, but I wanted to remember to do so. On April 28, 2002, I produced in Los Angeles a kut, Korean shaman ritual, on the occasion of the 10th anniversary of the L.A. Riots.
The idea took 2 years to bloom, during which time I tried my best to inspire highly Christianized / Westernized Korean expat community about the traditional ways that villages of their root culture would reconcile differences. They really would hear nothing of it, rather waiting to have yet another round of exchange between distinguished people (men -- business leaders, pastors, civic officials and university professors) discussing it with another person (same profile) in an isolated, albeit "public" forum. Perhaps that is what started the problem ... lack of understanding one's roots. It took about 20 years for the Korean businesses to hire their closest neighbors -- El Salvadoran and Latino immigrants -- and give them progressively more trust-worthy positions in their stores ... from baggers to checkers. That's not what I'll write about, however.
Here's the article that ran in The Los Angeles Times the week before the event. It was the lead in the "Calendar" section usually reserved for the philharmonic, opera, big theatre and occasionally dance (if it is classical). More will follow, as will photos.
Meantime, too, here's one of the articles that I wrote about how I got into this thing in the first place ... It originally ran in Kyoto Journal and also Korean Culture, the latter a now-defunct publication of the Consulate General of Korea in Los Angeles. It's called "Old Ways in the New World".
Friday, January 10, 2014
Sunday, January 5, 2014
“You Are Welcome!” as a reply to even a heartfelt "Thank you" seems to be falling out of favor in this frenzied, informal, digital world.
We hurriedly reply to the with yet another “No, thank you!”
Will the gratitude never end? By replying to “Thank you!” with “No, thank you!” may seem polite enough, but it does not mark the completion of the exchange.
And it can be mistaken for, "No thanks to you!"
Grateful people are happier, healthier long after the leftovers are gobbled up, notes The Wall Street Journal. Yet, how do we know that those thanks have been received? Are we able to be gracious enough to receive them? It seems that in the days of virtual friendships and cyber-commuting the welcome mat has been replaced by the “send” button in a truly never-ending exchange of appreciation that may be full of stuffing.
Linguistics expert Lynne Murphy notes in her TEDx TED Talk that the British proclivity for the thankee to “Thank” the thanker back is usually due to the reality that no one else has anything more to say. In contrast, while Americans have been observed to have an overwhelming desire to show endless gratitude -- hence, “Thanksgiving” is a national holiday. Yet, she projects that most likely the practical depth of such appreciation is relatively shallow. She makes the point that the latter politeness behavior system is “especially addictive” in the digital world, such as Facebook.
Are we being informal because we don’t know how to accurately measure the necessary formality a situation may call for?
Other replies can be “misunderstood or even misused to exert control over the receiver!” notes researcher Jeffrey J. Froh, assistant professor of psychology at Hofstra University in Hempstead, N.Y., in The Wall Street Journal. Thus, “Please” as “Bitte schön” (German), “Bevakesha” (Hebrew), “Prego” (Italian), and “Prosze” (Polish), can be inferred that the gesture is one way, or as children say in the game of tag, “No tag backs!”. In other cases, the giving has been undertaken with the intention that it will promote pleasure, such as “Mi gusto” (Spanish) or “Gerdu svo vel” (Icelandic). The Danish “Selv tak” (Thanks yourself) and Swedish “Varsagod” (Be so good) makes the exchange more final.